How can you calm your nerves and gain personal balance?
Can you remember the last time you got angry? If your answer is that you never get angry, allow us to be doubtful. It’s quite human to get angry, it’s a state like any other and a personal balance requires both positive and negative states. And today we’re going to talk about how to work on our not so negative states in order to obtain a personal balance and general well-being.
We’re always aware of the fact that life is about personal balance, about knowing ourselves and reaching a personal goal. Whether we talk about a financial growth or about improving inter-personal relationships or about knowing ourselves better, personal development has to offer something concrete, something practical and it has to be a guide through our journey towards our objective.
That’s why we’re not going to talk about how to get rid of anger and rage but rather about methods through which we can become calmer and through which we can better adjust emotionally in order to maintain a constant personal balance. But this doesn’t mean we have to entirely give up on being angry and just be cheerful all the time, because the extremes are the ones that are always going to create imbalance. Therefore, let’s get down to work and try out a couple of exercise through which we become calmer in our day-to-day life:
- Meditation is a very strong exercise that helps maintaining a general personal balance, not just when it comes to negative emotions. That’s why we recommend every day meditation. How can we successfully meditate? This is a topic we’re going to separately tackle, in a future article.
- Deep breathing is essential the moment we get angry. Through deep breathing the oxygenation of our organism is encouraged and the negative emotions disperse. This is especially valid for those who seldom get angry but when they do, it’s serious.
- Don’t interiorize negative feelings. Some of us have the tendency to get upset or angry and keep it all inside. More than that, we keep the anger in for quite a while. That’s why it’s a good idea to get rid of all those negative feelings. How can we do that? A good method is to concentrate on the good sides of the person that annoyed us or to focus our thoughts on the positive side of that person or event. Even a printer that’s ruining your day might have some qualities.
- Use logic. Even if it might prove to be difficult to use your logic when you’re angry try to be aware of the fact that the world is not against you. Even if it’s hard at the beginning, try to acknowledge and analyze things rationally.
- Visualize images. The moment you feel you’re beginning to become angry and rage is approaching, try to project in your mind a positive image, a positive memory. This way you’re going to diverge your focus from the nerves and keep your personal balance.
- Muscular relaxation. If we can’t reach personal balance merely through mental stimulation, it’s time for sport. The straining and relaxation of the muscles, one by one, helps relaxing the body and leads to immediate calming.
- Improve communication abilities. We know you don’t always get angry because of yourself, but clearly your communication abilities might substantially decrease the risk of getting angry. But about this we’re going to talk in a different article.
- Constant exercise. Constant exercise doesn’t just help maintaining a physical equilibrium but also a personal and emotional one. Sport activities have a beneficial effect and help lose tension in the body and the mind, along with all the other benefits.
- Be aware of the factors that that trigger your nerves and avoid them. We don’t have to tell you this, you already know which the things that can drive you mad are. But it’s good to actively acknowledge them and avoid them. Recognize the signals, be aware that you can get angry in that situation and avoid the situation. Why ponder upon how to calm yourself when you can just prevent the whole situation?
These being said, we’ll certainly be calmer and more aware of our actions and emotions. In other words, we’re going to reach a personal balance, without letting negative emotions take over our thoughts and actions.
Out of the above mentioned pieces of advice, which one is your favorite? We are waiting for your reply in the comments’ section!