About personal development, or how to become our better selves
It’s trendy nowadays to deal with personal development. But is personal development really just about reading books and taking part in seminars? Of course not, that’s why we always talk about personal development from a practical perspective, and today we came up with a couple of simple but efficient things in order to make those small adjustments in our behavior and thinking.
Why do you want to deal with personal development?
We know your time is precious that’s why we decided to fully dive in without wasting any time. The question “Why do you want to deal with personal development?” is a very serious one and you need to get an equally serious answer. Most of the people read books about personal development or they attend courses and seminars just because they are free (or very cheap) and because it’s a new social phenomenon that everyone takes part in. That’s why you can’t afford missing out on such an event. But is this really the essence of personal development?
“Personal development happens the moment you apply what you read. If you just read, without applying, it’s just a lecture.” We heard this phrase a dozen of times, from people who gained real results within their field, people that insist upon the fact that theory without practice is merely theory. If you just read and educate yourself, without actually applying what you read, you will remain a sophisticated poor person. Still poor, but fancy. And when we say this, richness and poorness have little to do with money.
What are we going to talk about today?
Today we’re going to talk about the importance of our behavior and the way to react at various day-to-day situations. It is said that life consists of 10% of what happens to us and 90% the way we react to that what happens to us. That’s why it’s so essential to understand what the best way of reacting in our day-to-day life is, according to our principles.
Where do we begin?
A good starting point is the way we react to those around us. We can begin by noticing the way we react to those around us but also the way those around us react to us. Did it ever happen to you that a person had a reaction that you considered to be inappropriate? There are certainly plenty of those examples. And in this manner we begin our first personal development game:
- Write down, on a piece of paper, at least 10 10 types of behavior that you see around you and that bother you;
- Once you write this down, be honest and observe those behavior types from the list that you can also notice at yourself;
- Obviously, none of us is a saint, that’s why it’s so essential to recognize those behavior types without blaming yourself too much.
The moment you do this exercise, you will become much more aware of these behaviors and of how those around you might feel.
Obviously, you will never be able to give up on all these behaviors from the very start, just the way you are not meant to give them up entirely. Personal development is about balancing the states from our life. Personal development is not about being 100% optimist all the time and it’s certainly not about removing those less than perfect parts of ourselves. Personal development is about accepting who you are and knowing yourself better, in order to be able to grow towards the direction that you desire.
That’s why, before changing the world, before changing those around you, begin with yourself. Notice what you would wish to change at those around you and begin by making those changes yourself. Because just by knowing yourself, working at improving yourself, you will be able to change those around you. And this is the real key towards self-development.
These being said, we hope to have come with an easy self-development exercise that you can apply at any time and it has the purpose of helping you become aware of a couple of things about yourself. Whether it’s about your not so great points or about your best ones. And if you want to read more about personal development from Digital Life Solutions, we invite you to access our blog, where you’re going to find precious information that can be turned into practice anytime, anywhere and by anyone.